There are many reasons that people begin to feel insecure about the relationship they are in. It is important to remember that feeling this way is normal and common. What we have to do is address the lies that Satan sends our way.
Confront those lies and then realize that those lies come from the insecurity we have in ourselves. We can defeat this problem by learning who we are in God. See ourselves the way God sees us.
When we believe God’s truth about ourselves this will change our perspective and let us see the truth about our relationships.
The word of God is the place to go when we want to feel God’s love. The feelings of insecurity will fade away when they know the good news of Jesus Christ. These negative thoughts will leave us with God’s help.
Here are seventeen verses from God’s word that will allow the Holy Spirit to take away our insecurities in our relationships.
Philippians 4:6-7 Choose to be thankful for what you do have.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
There are days when we are seeing things on social media that will make us doubt what we believe. We see someone else in a relationship that looks more full of love than our relationship and we can begin to think the wrong thing about our own relationship.
We can also begin to believe lies about our outward appearance and wonder if the reason our relationship is different is because of our looks, or how we dress. Body image and anxiety in relationships both stem from spending too much time on social media.
Instead spent time with God. Prayer and reading the Bible will allow us to see the good things we have. Once we are thankful for those things God will bring us peace. We will stop trusting in our own understanding and God will give us a way of escape in the love of God.
Matthew 6:31-34 Do not worry about the future.
“Therefore, do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear? ‘For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. “Therefore, do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”
In relationships, we can start to look into the future and then worry about what lies ahead. While making sure there are provisions in place in case of tragedy worry is never helpful. If we are constantly fearing that our partner is going to leave us or pass away that fear will cripple us, and not allow us to enjoy today.
As a child of God, we know that God will take care of us and love us. The love of the Father will give us the assurance that He will take care of us, and whatever lies in the future will be O.K. as long as we spend time in God’s presence.
Joshua 1:9 Be strong and brave.
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you are.”
God commands us to not be afraid. The spiritual forces of evil will attack your relationship. Remember that the devil hates peace, and he wants to destroy families. But we can be good soldiers of Christ Jesus, and fight against the fear that the devil is sending our way.
The truth of God will remind us that we don’t have to be afraid because God is always with us. When you are feeling worried about your relationship take the time to say out loud, God commands me to be strong and courageous.
Romans 5:1-2 Let our relationship bring glory to God.
“Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God.”
In our relationships, we have to be careful to not be proud. As Christians when we have a strong relationship, we know that comes through the power of God. The power of prayer is essential to finding freedom.
We don’t meet our own needs; God meets our needs and cares for us. If you have a great relationship, it might make you look down on others who have insecurity in their relationship. But remember that the true security that you are feeling is from living in the will of God.
Instead of looking down on others who don’t have a strong relationship you can instead show them healthy ways to find security in the hope that is found in the glory of God. Allow your relationship to be a beacon of light for others to see.
Romans 8:1 We are not condemned.
“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
If you are in Christ Jesus then remember these words from the word of God. You are not condemned. In times of insecurity turn to God and see yourself as a child of God. Do not allow insecure thoughts to have control over your life.
We must allow the Holy Spirit and his truth to be the one in control of our thoughts. We are in Christ Jesus. We belong to him. We have to trust in that truth to find our security.
1 Peter 3:4 Our beauty is in a gentle and quiet spirit.
Instead, your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest value in God’s sight.
There are many women who begin to make changes to their bodies when they start to have negative feelings about their relationship.
They think if they were more beautiful their relationship would be better. But the truth is that a person who is gentle and has a quiet spirit is one that others and God find value in.
Remember that God sees you, and he loves you. There is great peace in knowing that you are never alone. With that knowledge know that your ageless beauty is found in your gentle and quiet spirit.
Colossians 3:14 We can put on love each day
And above all these [put on] love and enfold yourselves with the bond of perfectness.
Love is something we choose to do each day. It is like putting on our clothes. Each day we have to make that choice to love. Love is active.
It is not something that is just a feeling. It is action. There will be days when you will not feel in love. But on those days, you actively choose to love. It is when you are feeling the worst in your relationship that is when you should do something great to show your love.
Psalm 23:2-3 God will lead us to peace.
“He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.”
David wrote this psalm early in his life. David was a shepherd, and he wrote this poem about God, showing he is the good shepherd that we need.
When you are upset and sad go to God. He will lead you toward peace and calm. God will restore your soul and will show you the right path to walk down. There is a reason this is a passage we used to make sure every child memorized.
Throughout life, this chapter of the Bible is one that I have quoted in my mind when I am feeling anxious. If you deal with insecurities often my recommendation is to memorize this passage and quote it every time you are upset.
1 John 4:18 Love will cast out our fear.
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.”
Fear comes from a lack of trust. If you be afraid in your life, then you know that it is a crippling thing. That fear can only be taken out of our lives by the perfect love of the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
A great way to cast out that fear is to remember that God loves us with perfect love. That love will remind us of who we are, and how God feels about us.
1 Peter 4:8 Love will help us ignore shortcomings.
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins
When you are in love with someone you will overlook just about anything. This is not always wise. We want to make sure that we are not overlooking red flags in a new relationship. But as we become comfortable in the relationship we can start to get upset about minor things.
If you see yourself getting upset about little things take the time to stop and pray. Pray for your loved one. Ask God to restore your love. When you choose to love someone then you will actively work to ignore the minor things that once frustrated us.
Remember no one is perfect. The ones we love are not perfect, and we can’t expect that from them. Give grace to them.
Isaiah 43:2 God is walking with us.
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned or scorched, nor will the flame kindle upon you.
If you are going through a hard time in your relationship you might feel like giving up. Don’t give up on your loved one. Remember that God wants to be with you all the time.
No matter how alone you might feel know that God is with you walking beside you. He will not leave you. No matter how hard the struggle is don’t give up.
John 14:27 God wants us to be full of peace
“Peace, I leave with you; the peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”
God wants to give us his peace. He doesn’t want us to live in fear. He wants us to live in freedom. He doesn’t want us to have hearts that are troubled. If you have a lack of confidence in your relationship that comes from fear God wants to take that from us.
His unconditional love will give us the peace we need. If you have peace, and your relationship is peaceful then you will have success in your marriage, or dating life. Take this gift from God. His peace is a wonderful gift he wants to give you.
Ephesians 2:10 God created you for a purpose
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. “
This verse was written by Paul the apostle of Jesus Christ. Paul reminds you that you were created in Christ Jesus for a reason. You are here to do good works, God created you for a reason.
There is something so wonderful about the plan that God has for your life. Your relationship also has a purpose. God created you as a couple for a reason. Once you find your purpose in Christ as a relationship then you will thrive.
Isaiah 40:8 God’s love is forever.
“The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God endures forever.”
It falls here today as I write this. The flowers are falling, and soon the grass will wither. But as we see summer leave us and fall come into play, we can be reminded that God will never end. Perhaps you are in a long-distance relationship. This can be a very hard relationship and having fears about our relationship is normal.
This is especially true when a visit has come to an end you are going to be separated again. Just as the grass withers and flowers fall, visits will also come to an end. But remember that your relationship with God never ends. The security in that relationship can bring us peace.
Ecclesiastes 3:11 God is building something beautiful.
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart, yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to.”
God has plans for you and for your relationship. He is building something wonderful. I learned a lesson from baking. If you take the cake out of the oven when it looks finished, you will be disappointed. You have to wait until the cake is fully baked.
Sometimes we can do that with relationships. We can judge a relationship we are in as if it was finished, however, God is still building something beautiful. We have to wait for God’s timing and let him finish the thing he is building.
Proverbs 8:10 We can run to God for safety.
“The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run into it and are safe.”
Every time I read this verse I start to sing because these are the words to one of the songs my children sang in church when they were very young. I am glad they learned this verse as children because it is an important verse to know when we are feeling any insecurities.
If you have gone through trauma in your life, you may find yourself even more vulnerable to feeling anxiety about how others feel about you.
This is an essential passage of the Bible to learn and meditate on if you are recovering from a past trauma.
Philippians 4:13 God will give you strength.
“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
The God of peace wants to give you strength. He wants to help you strengthen your relationship. The things of the world will try to convince you of lies. These lies will bring anxiety into your relationship. Defeating these anxieties will take hard work.
But as a good soldier of Christ Jesus, you can overcome these fears. Talk to God and ask him for his strength. With the help of God, you will overcome these fears. God will help you walk through this trial and come out the other side saying God is worthy of praise.