God’s word speaks about single women who prophesied for Him. It also provides counsel for women as it relates to love and their desires.
According to the Bible, choosing a spouse is not something that should be taken lightly. Counsel, prayer, and ensuring that both individuals are equally yoked are very important.
The amazing thing about God is that He has a steadfast love for you regardless of what season of life you are in. He has the same love for you if you are a young man, single mom, or single woman.
Feel free to embrace your season of singleness and focus your energy, gifts, and talents on ministering to others about the kingdom of God.
When praying to the heavenly Father for a life partner, your motives have to be pure and just. Here are some Bible verses that will help you to seek the Lord and ask Him to lead you in the right way.
Song of Songs 2:7 NIV: Resist sexual immorality
“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”
There might be a reason why Song of Salmon has this text three times. It is also found in chapter three verse five and chapter eight verse four. It gives a stern warning that requires self-control.
The story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife is a great example of what might happen when self-control is not exercised. In losing control of yourselves you may negatively influence others to act on desires that may force them to sin against God.
Joseph obeyed God’s word and resisted temptation and sexual immorality. Through the power of the Lord and the help of the Holy Spirit, you too are able to focus on the things of the Lord rather than lustful desires.
Genesis 2:18 NIV : God values companionship
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
In God’s word, we see how much He values companionship and togetherness. In the Garden of Eden Adam was alone but this wasn’t for long. God placed him in a deep sleep, took one of his ribs, and formed a companion for him.
God cares very much for you and in His timing, He will provide a companion for you too.
Psalm 68:6 NIV: The Lord will place you in a family
“God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.”
Every single person can draw comfort from this scripture passage. Being single doesn’t mean that you are alone but if things ever got to that point, you can be hopeful that the Lord will place you in a family.
Isaiah 43:4 NIV: You are precious and honored
“Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life.”
An important thing to consider while you go through your single season is that you are precious and honored in the sight of the Lord. He loves you with everlasting love and that is why Jesus Christ died in your place. Isn’t it amazing, God exchanged His own son for you?
1 Corinthians 7:8-9 NIV: 2 pieces of advice to singles
“Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. ⁹ But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
In this text we see the apostle giving two pieces of advice to widows and the unmarried. Nothing is wrong with being unmarried. You may choose this path in order to devote your life, gifts, and talents to ministry and sharing the gospel with others.
If you are a single Christian or a widow you may decide to get married in order to maintain sexual purity. That’s why the apostle Paul said that it’s better to marry than to burn with sexual desire.
1 Corinthians 7:34 NIV: The single life gives you more time for prayer to God
“And his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.”
This verse looks at the difference between a married woman and an unmarried woman. It highlights the fact that a single life provides the opportunity for you to give undivided devotion to the Lord’s affairs.
In the King James Version, the passage says that “The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord…but she that is married careth for the things of the world”.
Enjoy your season of singleness and devote your body and spirit to God because when you get married you will also have a duty to your own husband.
Philippians 4:6 NIV – God will find someone for you, don’t worry.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
It’s very easy to take your focus from God and start fixating on your biological clock as a female. You start to worry about your age and the number of years you have left to find a husband. You may also become anxious when you realize that the timeline for having your first child is rapidly closing.
Yes, sometimes finding a good man who loves the Lord and complements your personality is a great challenge but the Bible says you should not worry.
Instead of worrying that you are getting older and that it’s taking forever to find Mr. Right, surrender all your anxieties to the Lord. Go to Him in prayer and trust Him. He may take a while to respond but He is always on time.
2 Corinthians 6:14 NIV: Don’t be desperate and date a non-believer
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
There are many instances in the Old Testament where the children of Israel took wives from other nations. After a while, idol worship and other practices become commonplace and the faith of Israel turns away from God.
As a result, Corinthians warns single Christians not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
Proverbs 21:19 NIV: Choosing the right partner is important
“Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.”
The personality trait of your future spouse should be one that brings out the best in you. If your husband-to-be will constantly do things to get you upset and irritated you may end up being a quarrelsome wife.
You will be unhappy and your husband will grow weary of the nagging. It is wise to select a partner who will bring out the best in you to avoid a nagging marriage relationship.
Proverbs 13:20 NIV: Get advice before making that important decision to marry
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
This text provides great advice as it relates to who you take counsel from to make a decision relating to choosing your spouse.
The text also forces one to think about the personality and other traits of your future wife or husband. Will you be saying I do, to be joined to a foolish companion for the rest of your life? Or will you be walking with the wise as you become wiser in your union together with each other?
Genesis 2:24 NIV
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
Choosing a partner means that you will separate to some extent from your parents as you embrace your spouse and your union with each other. In doing so, your partner will not question or doubt your commitment to the marriage because he or she will know how devoted you are.
Proverbs 19:14 NIV: Pray earnestly for the right partner
“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
There are some things that you are able to accomplish on your own or with the help of others. A prudent wife however is not one of these things. Only with the help of the Lord will you be able to find a woman who is judicious in practical affairs, wise, circumspect, and careful in providing for the future.
If you are in search of a life partner then you will need to pray earnestly for a prudent wife or husband. As you do so be comforted by the words in Matthew 7:7. It states, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”.
Psalm 19:14 NIV: Pleasing our heavenly Father
“May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”
If you are in search of a prayer, thought, or mantra as a single individual this psalm may be very helpful. As you repeat these words or meditate on them your focus will be on pleasing the heavenly father.
If you desire godliness above anything else then all things will be given to you. All things include a prudent life partner.
Romans 8:7 NIV: Fix your mind in spiritual things
“The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so.”
The English Standard Version of this text uses the word set instead of governing. It states, “For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot”
When praying for a life partner your prayer should be that your mind will be set on spiritual things rather than fixed on carnal matters or things of the flesh. Romans 12 and Philippians 2 advise of the mindset that you should have.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2 KJV
Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Philippians 2:5 KJV
Proverbs 19:20 NIV
“Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end, you will be counted among the wise.”
Follow the advice found in scripture and the ones given by family members and others. The Bible is a guide profitable for reproof and instruction in righteousness. 2 Timothy 3:16 states, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,”.
Other individuals are able to provide an objective and unbiased assessment of the person you would like to be your life partner. It would be wise to listen to the advice, ruminate, and pray before making a decision.
Proverbs 31:30 NIV: Don’t choose someone because they are attractive
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
This is an important scripture to keep in mind if you are an unmarried man. Don’t choose a wife based on physical appearance because as you age together her beauty will fade. Instead, look for a wife of noble character.
If you find a single Christian woman who fears the Lord, she will add wisdom to your marriage relationship for years to come. Proverbs 9:10 confirms this. It states, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding”.
Psalm 84:11 NIV: God will find someone for you
“For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.”
God will give you your heart’s desire. His word promises that He will not withhold anything good from you. All you are required to do is be blameless on your Christian walk.
Proverbs 18:22, supports this text. It says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord”.
Romans 12:1 NIV: Take care of your body
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.”
The message in this text is a powerful reminder by the apostle Paul. Single or married, you should treat your body in a way that is pleasing to God.
Psalm 119:9-10 NIV: stay on the path of purity
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. ¹⁰ I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands.”
There are many temptations that come with being single. This psalm not only asks a very important question. It goes on to say what a young person should do in order to stay on the path of purity.
Seek God with all your heart, live according to His word, and constantly pray that you will not stray from His commands.
Matthew 6:33 NIV: Keep focused on God
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
One of the best things to consider when setting priorities is the kingdom of God. Having your mind focused on God and righteousness puts you in the perfect position to know and follow His will.
When you allow His will to be yours, He will grant you the desires of your heart. Focus on being a righteous citizen of His kingdom and He will bless you with the partner He has created for you.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV: Be Patient, God will bring someone to you
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:”
Believing in God’s promises is one thing. Being patient as you anticipate their fulfillment takes endurance. This Bible verse is great for keeping things in perspective as you wait on God and His timing.
There is a time and place for everything. At this time, you should embrace being single and treasure the lessons that will prepare you for your season of marriage.
Conclusion
As a single person you can be assured that you are loved by God and that He is willing to use you. All you need to do is: use the Bible as a guide for your season of singleness, apply it as a tool as you pray for a life partner, and wait with patient endurance for the Lord to provide you with a prudent and God-fearing spouse.